Tuesday, August 11, 2009

You are Beautiful!

One of the most common questions I get asked by my clients is "how do I get more energy?"

Obviously, there is no one answer... in fact, the answer can be different for everyone, and by asking series of questions, my clients find their own balance in their lives, therefore creating their own energy.

But there is one universal "trick" that seems to work in most cases - if you are feeling drained and void of energy, a quick "pick me up" is to pick someone else up. In other words - do something kind for someone else, and instantaneously, you can reap the rewards of a zap of energy.

I read an article somewhere, and forgive me for not quoting the resource, where someone had the idea of performing a social experiment to boost women's self-image and self-worth. The idea was to leave anonymous notes in women's rooms, lockers, fitting rooms... any where that someone may need a boost of self confidence - and the note had one simple message "You are beautiful"

When I read the article - I loved the idea - and I have a stack of fun, heart-shaped stick-it notes, and I started the experiment for myself. I tend to frequent a few bars because my boyfriend is a karaoke DJ - so every time I went into a ladies room, I stuck my random note to the mirror, or if the bathroom was occupied, to the back of the bathroom stall door:



What I didn't realize when I started this experiment, was how good it would make me feel. I would watch girls come out of the ladies rooms smiling. If I had to frequent the bathroom again, I would watch the girls responses as I reapplied my lip gloss or washed my hands. Most smiled at the note, some tipped their heads to the side and shrugged their shoulders... and one girl actually took the note down and said "I needed this today..." and I whispered to her - "just pay it forward" ... and she said she would.

Really - I am not becoming a ladies room stalker... but geesh - what fun I've had with this experiment! The joy and energy it brought me last week was more than I expected. So much so, I thought it would be fun to let my secret out and share it with you, so that maybe you could try it too..... Let me know how it works - I would love to hear from you!

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Feeling Groovy

Yesterday was just "one of those days"....

I woke up late, couldn't find anything to wear, rushed around like a lunatic - jumped in my truck and sped off to the office.

Its a route I drive every single day.... and I was bee-bopping along, minding my own business ... when suddenly I realized I had a police officer on my tail with his blue lights flashing like disco inferno.

Once I was safely pulled over, I rolled down my window, and a very stern police officer approached and asked me "do you know why I pulled you over?"

Now, what really flashed through my mind was the scene from "Liar, Liar" when Jim Carey blurts out all the wrong-doings and misgivings of his driving with the final exclamation of "and I was speeding!!!"

What I realized is I didn't really know where I was on the road... I drive this route so many times that often I get to the office without even remembering the drive at all. I was driving mindlessly - letting my mind race to when I arrived at the office and all the things I had to get done. My head was virtually checking off a mile-long to-do list... and I hadn't exactly been paying attention to my driving at all... but I presumed I was speeding... and I was... and while the officer wrote my ticket, I felt very remorseful. This is the very thing I coach people on every day, and here I am - caught red-handed in mindless behavior.

This time was a monetary misfortune... but how many other opportunities have I missed because I live my life at times, as a means to an end... an end that often times, never comes? How many sunsets have I missed because I was too busy to look out a window? How many smiles did I walk past because I was looking down at the side walk, rather into the faces of passersby on the street? How many times have I been so preoccupied that I lost the opportunity to receive a gift from the Universe?

So I have been revisiting the teachings of Ekhart Tolle - the author of "The Power of Now". Perhaps you have heard of him, after his big debut on the "worlds largest classroom" world wide webinar with Oprah. Despite his low monotoned voice, his teachings are amazing and have truly transformed my way of thinking... but with anything else, sometimes you need to be brought back to basics.

One excerpt from his teachings "The Power of Now" is especially relevant to my experience yesterday:

In your everyday life, you can practice this (mindfulness) by taking any routine activity that normally is only a means to an end and giving it your fullest attention, so that it becomes an end in itself. For example, every time you walk up and down the stairs in your house or place of work, pay close attention to every step, every movement, even your breathing. Be totally present.

Or when you wash your hands, pay attention to all the sense perceptions associated with the activity: the sound and feel of the water, the movement of your hands, the scent of the soap, and so on.

Or when you get into your car, after you close the door, pause for a few seconds and observe the flow of your breath. Become aware of a silent but powerful sense of presence.

There is once certain criterion by which you can measure your success in this practice: the degree of peace you feel within.

Teachings and self-help guides are wonderful, but if you don't put them into every day practice - what good are they?

Often, when I find a practice I really want to implement, I find a song that reminds me of the teaching.. I program it into my iPod, and play it when I need a reminder... sometimes I even program songs to play for me right when I wake up as a reminder of how I want to live my day...

So, if this tidbit of advice is useful to you, and you would like to be reminded of my discovery and lesson of mindful awareness - I invite you to listen to this song - Feelin' Groovy

Enjoy your day - every single moment!

Coach Priscilla