Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Welcome 2010!!

Hello everyone!

I hope you all had a fabulous Holiday. It was a whirlwind holiday season for me - I actually flew out to California with my boyfriend and spent the Holidays out with his family. The sunshine and weather was glorious. I love my Maine winters, but I have to admit, that California sunshine is pretty addictive!

Now that I am back, I am doing what I imagine a lot of people are doing - reviewing 2009, and gearing up for 2010.

One coaches blog that I read and enjoy (Cheryl Richardson) suggested that we list out 25 accomplishments from 2009, and then list out 25 goals for 2010. I'm not sure if I can list that many here- but I can certainly share my top 10, and encourage you to try this exercise for yourself:

Accomplishments for 2009:

1) Left my overly stressful and demanding "corporate job"
2) Branded and Launched my business - Open Door Life Coaching
3) Held several successful workshops and seminars
4) gained wonderful and inspiring clients!
5) adopted my baby dog Lexi!
6) Traveled to California - twice!
7) got my braces off (and ate copious amounts of popcorn!)
8) met hundreds of inspiring and supportive business people at networking events
9) placed first place in 2 speech contests - at the club, area and district level at Toastmasters
10) completed a new website design that is ready to launch in 2010.

As you can see, many of my accomplishments for 2009 were business oriented... so, as I was looking forward at 2010, I pulled out a life wheel, and accessed my satisfaction levels in my life, I discovered I was less satisfied in areas of personal growth, health and wellness, and fun and recreation. So, that is where I am placing my focus for 2010. Like most Americans, personal finance and career are still a large focus, but it seems sometimes we focus so much on one or two areas of our life, that other areas get neglected. In reflection, while I am really satisfied with my body image, I do agree I could eat better and move more. I could be more conscious of my eating habits. (ever since I got my braces off, I have gone a little hog-wild on eating nuts, candy, and foods that were once "off limits... ha ha) After being in California for a week, eating fresh fruits and vegetables and walking every where, I realize that I could incorporate many more healthy measures in my life. So... without further adieu, here are my 2010 goals:

1) Eat balanced, wholesome, non-processed foods (treats and "fun foods" are eaten consciously)
2) Incorporate activity into my daily regime
3) spend at least an hour out doors every day
4) Go dancing at least twice a month
5) Go to the gym twice a week
6) Drink 8 glasses of water a day
7) Plan and execute new workshops and teleclasses (details to follow!)
8) Lets get 500 Facebook Fans!
9) continue to grow my coaching business into a thriving, successful practice!!
10) Begin writing my book (do I dare say draft quality by the end of 2010?)

Through the next several weeks, I am going to break down my goals and talk about my successes, challenges, and thoughts on each one. Sure, I am a coach - but I can say, I will need
support from you all to achieve my goals - so lets work together! I want to hear from you - so be sure to leave comments or email me privately - priscilla@opendoorlifecoaching.com

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas...

or Hanukkah, or Winter Solstice, or Kwanzaa... what ever you celebrate, take the time to appreciate the true spirit and nature of the season.

This is a picture from the last Christmas I celebrated with my Destiny. It was right after a big ice storm. My girl had been very ill for quite sometime- she had been diagnosed with Chronic Renal Failure in April, and she was living out her last days, being loved and cherished every moment I had her. It was a really stressful time for me. I was up with her every hour on the hour for weeks on end carrying her down my apartment stairs because she was so weak. I was administering sub-q fluids daily. She was on copious amounts of medication. She had stopped eating regular food, and what little nourishment I did get in her, I had to cook for her. I had spent all my extra money on her treatments, and I wasn't able to get my family and friends the presents I wished I could have gotten them. It just didn't feel like Christmas to me. I questioned my decision on even getting a tree, I mean, what was I thinking? Forty dollars on a tree when I can't even afford to get my family Christmas presents? But it was tradition... and I was talked into going. As I recall, my sister lent me the money.

Yet on the day we went to get the family Christmas trees... an annual tradition we have carried on for years and years, Destiny trotted down the icy road with my nephew, she pranced around as we cut down the tree. She even picked out the tree by leading me straight to the ice encrusted tree... it gleamed and sparkled in the sun like diamonds. It was breathtaking.

Oh how I cherish this moment of sweetness I captured through my camera lens... and I often wonder what she was whispering in Santa's ear? What was on her Christmas list? What were her last wishes? Had she accomplished all she had set out to do in her life?

If this was your last Christmas, what would you ask Santa to bring you? Surely the list would include things like more time with loved ones, more romps in the snow, more time to snuggle and watch the glimmering Christmas Tree.... more time to say I love you.

You might wish for more time to complete tasks undone, but I have a feeling most chores would be easily laid to rest, your work here would be complete, and you would be allowed to focus all your heart and soul on what really matters - the ones you love.

I remember decorating that Christmas tree. I remember Destiny watching as we hung each ornament. As we hung the ornaments on the tree, I noticed how beautiful each one was - I told Mike stories of where I got each ornament, or who gave it to me, or what year and significance each one had... it seemed each one had a story of someone I loved. I remember being overwhelmed and grateful to have that wonderful day with Destiny and my family. For that one day I had my girl back. She even ate a big bowl of chicken and rice that night. Hallelujah! I have a feeling I know what she asked Santa for that day.

The Holidays can be a stressful, overwhelming, busy, bustling and crazy time of year.... but take a moment - perhaps right now - to just be still. Watch your babies sleep in their beds. Take in the sights and smells of the season. Hold hands with your sweet heart. Say I love you to the people in your life who need to hear it. Practice a random act of kindness. Give thanks to your Maker for all the blessings in your life.

And imagine what your life would be like if you did that every day.

Have yourself - a merry - little - Christmas.


Friday, December 4, 2009

Getting Unstuck

Its funny... and a little ironic. Here I am - a Life Coach. I help people move forward and achieve their goals. Sometimes when clients come to me, they are so stuck in their own head, they are experiencing what I like to call "analysis paralysis". Through series of guided questions, visualizations and breaking down inner and outer blocks - my clients pull out of their ruts and become unstoppable.

So why is it that I - The Life Coach... made a goal for myself to blog every week, have not posted for two months?

Because I got stuck.

What do I write? What do I say? What do people need to hear? What value will people get from reading my blog? I got so caught up with analyzing what I was going to write, that when I sat down at my keyboard, my mind was as blank as my screen. My mind would spin, and I would get absolutely no where.

But I love to write. I love to blog. I love to point out all the quirks of every day living and have fun with them. So why has this been a block for me?

So I called upon my Inner Coach... and asked myself - You love to write, you love to blog, you love to express yourself creatively - what has been getting in your way of updating your blog for your readers once a week?

Well - the excuses started popping up... No time, No ideas, Nothing new to say.... but when I broke down each "excuse" I found that they really didn't hold up.

It always comes back to the Gremlin... the little voice in our heads that says "you are not good enough."

When I sat and thought about why I wasn't updating my blog, it wasn't that I didn't have anything to say. I always have something to say... (and people who know me are nodding their heads)... The truth of the matter was, I was afraid that what I had to say wasn't going to touch my readers the way I hope it will. I want to be inspiring, helpful, and useful. I want to help shift people's energy and maybe put a smile on their face in the process.

The next question I asked myself was.... are you inspiring, helpful, useful by not updating your blog?

No. I guess I'm not. Not at all. Not even a chance.

So there are really two truths to this dilemma. I could write my blog entry, and no one finds it interesting or inspiring... or I could not write my blog entry, and inspire and interest no one.

Both statements could be true ... but which statement gets me closer to MY goal? Taking the risk and writing anyway. Ah ha.

So, that is what I am doing this morning - just writing, observing, and pulling from personal experience... and finally I am unstuck - free from the rut, and now in action. The results from my taking action are still yet to be seen, but geez it feels good to be unstuck! Its kind of like when you go off the road in the winter and are stuck in a snow bank. You can spin-spin-spin your tires and get absolutely no where, or you can get out of the car, put on some chains, throw down some sand and rock your way out. Once you are free and moving, you realize that spinning your tires got you absolutely no where except deeper and deeper in the ruts.

Feeling stuck or inactive in your life? Stop spinning your tires -lets get out the chains and the sand. I'd love to hear from you... lets reveal the true statements in your life, and get you moving towards your goals.

~Coach Priscilla